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Three-Legged Race: What a Childhood Game Teaches Us About Love

Not Just a Childhood Game Most of us have run a three-legged race at least once in our lives. You stand hip to hip with a partner. Someone ties your adjacent legs together with a length of rope. A starting pistol fires, and suddenly you discover…
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Keeping The Doors Of Love Open In Your Relationship

Keeping the Doors of Love Open Does your relationship feel like a place where you can fully be yourself? Or do you find yourself editing who you are, choosing your words carefully, softening your reactions, bracing for what might come next?…

Reacting vs. Responding: A Subtle Difference That Changes Everything

Know That You Have a Choice In the space between what happens to us and how we act, there is a quiet but profound power. And most of us don't know it's there. Most of us move through our days operating on a kind of emotional autopilot. Something…
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How to Stop Turning Your Partner Into the Enemy

When Love Meets Difference Most of us have been trained to see life through a very narrow lens. We live in a culture whose values, social norms, institutions, and systems have largely been shaped by a level of human consciousness that is binary…

Not Good Enough? Compared to What?

Looking At "Good Enough" From a Different Angle We are all doing the best we can… and this is what it looks like. It looks like misunderstandings, missed opportunities, and moments we wish we could take back. It looks like people acting…
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Why Do We Keep Having the Same Fight?

Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash The argument isn't really about what you think it's about. If you've been in a long-term relationship, you know the feeling. A familiar tension rises, words are exchanged, and somewhere in the middle of it,…
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When Illness or Death Changes Everything Overnight: 5 Ways to Stay Grounded in the Chaos

There is a moment when life as you know it ends. It might come in a phone call. A diagnosis. A doctor walking into the room.One sentence, and everything changes. An email I received from a reader provoked this article. She wrote “I’m…
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If I Were Queen: The Power of Vulnerability and Letting Go of Control

What if the way we protect ourselves is also what keeps us from feeling fully alive? For many years, I found myself saying, “If I were queen…” whenever I felt frustrated with the way people behave and the way the world works. This was…

How Is Your Version of the Truth Working for You?

  Opening Story Living alone, I have often found it difficult to ask for help when I need it. After a knee replacement surgery, I called my friend June and asked if she could pick up lunch for me while she was out running errands. I…

The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism

The Hidden Cost of Perfectionism Perfectionism is one of the most socially rewarded forms of self-rejection. To the perfectionist, perfectionism looks responsible and disciplined. It even looks admirable. But underneath its polished surface,…

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