Have you ever noticed that you and your partner keep having essentially the same fight over and over again? No matter what the topic, whenever you get into an argument, does it always seems to turn out the same way? That’s usually because you are shadowboxing with the wrong person. Let me introduce you to […]
What sustains you? What puts a smile on your face and lights up your heart? What keeps the embers of your soul on fire? What really matters deeply to you? It is so easy to get caught up in the ongoing activities and demands of our lives. We often forget or lose track of what […]
Do you and your partner frequently battle over who is “right” and who is “wrong?” If so, battles will be won, but a war will rage on. Right/wrong thinking makes a relationship an ongoing power struggle. It is the territory of two ego personalities who are only considering two options: winning or losing. Only one […]
“If I am not for myself, then who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, then what am I? And if not now, when?” –Hillel Learn to embrace the fullness of life. This calls us to bear personal responsibility and accountability for our own life. I was recently listening to “Radical […]
Do you dread gathering with your family and friends for holidays, weddings, funerals and other events? Or have you been blessed with a truly loving and nurturing family? Dysfunctional childhood and family dynamics have a way resurfacing and making us feel crazy, trapped, and wanting to run for the hills. If this sounds familiar, ask […]
It really is what’s inside that counts. It isn’t so much what happens to you that determines the quality of your life. Rather, it is how well you deal with what happens. The quality of our inner experience matters far more than how we measure up to some external measurement of success. We all have […]
Do you experience God? Or, is God a concept to you? Or, perhaps God is not something that matters to you. Some people worship very small gods like the god of opinion or the god of money, power, status, and success. Some relate to God as a concept. Others experience God. And some deny the […]
The short answer is “Yes!” But the real problem is the question itself. When we worry about whether we are good enough we are buckling ourselves at the knees over a perceived flaw rather than standing tall in the fullness of our being. This act of questioning our sufficiency causes us to feel inferior without […]
Do you live at the cause or at the effect of your own life? Do you think what you experience is a response to other people and external events? Or do you see how you create, promote, and allow what happens to you? When we play the victim, we are placing ourselves at the effect […]
Are you living at the cause or the effect of what is happening in your life? Are you living from the outside in or the inside out? Is your life a series of reactions to external events and the beliefs and behaviors of others? Or, do you live connected deeply within yourself and respond to […]