Every second, we are bombarded with information. What Do We Perceive? In his book, Strangers to Ourselves, Timothy Wilson quantifies the processing capabilities of the human brain. While the conscious mind processes 40 bits of information per second, the unconscious mind processes 11 million! The fact that most of our data processing is unconscious is […]
Fear is a Fantasy Expectation Appearing Real. Fear can get triggered in many ways. Some people are afraid of dogs or snakes or spiders, for example. Others fear experiencing such emotional states as humiliation, rejection, shame, loneliness, and failure. Still others fear such life occurrences as poverty, serious illness, or death. Whether your fear is […]
Have you ever noticed that you and your partner keep having essentially the same fight over and over again? No matter what the topic, whenever you get into an argument, does it always seems to turn out the same way? That’s usually because you are shadowboxing with the wrong person. Let me introduce you to […]
What sustains you? What puts a smile on your face and lights up your heart? What keeps the embers of your soul on fire? What really matters deeply to you? It is so easy to get caught up in the ongoing activities and demands of our lives. We often forget or lose track of what […]
Do you and your partner frequently battle over who is “right” and who is “wrong?” If so, battles will be won, but a war will rage on. Right/wrong thinking makes a relationship an ongoing power struggle. It is the territory of two ego personalities who are only considering two options: winning or losing. Only one […]
“If I am not for myself, then who will be for me? And if I am only for myself, then what am I? And if not now, when?” –Hillel Learn to embrace the fullness of life. This calls us to bear personal responsibility and accountability for our own life. I was recently listening to “Radical […]
Do you dread gathering with your family and friends for holidays, weddings, funerals and other events? Or have you been blessed with a truly loving and nurturing family? Dysfunctional childhood and family dynamics have a way resurfacing and making us feel crazy, trapped, and wanting to run for the hills. If this sounds familiar, ask […]
It really is what’s inside that counts. It isn’t so much what happens to you that determines the quality of your life. Rather, it is how well you deal with what happens. The quality of our inner experience matters far more than how we measure up to some external measurement of success. We all have […]
Do you experience God? Or, is God a concept to you? Or, perhaps God is not something that matters to you. Some people worship very small gods like the god of opinion or the god of money, power, status, and success. Some relate to God as a concept. Others experience God. And some deny the […]
The short answer is “Yes!” But the real problem is the question itself. When we worry about whether we are good enough we are buckling ourselves at the knees over a perceived flaw rather than standing tall in the fullness of our being. This act of questioning our sufficiency causes us to feel inferior without […]