What Game Are You Really Playing? The Origins of the Metaphor of Life As a Game Since the 1600s, great thinkers have used the metaphor of life as a game or performance. Shakespeare famously wrote, “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” This suggests that real people are like […]
The Metaphor of the Pearl The oyster’s journey of pearl formation is a metaphor for overcoming adversity. Difficult situations can be the source of our greatest blessings and growth if we respond with courage and perseverance. How and Why the Oyster Forms a Pearl We tend to activate autopilot defense mechanisms to push away less than […]
Recognizing the Sacred in Every Life We Encounter In aviation and maritime communication, the term “souls onboard” is used during emergencies to communicate the number of living human beings onboard a vessel. It’s not just a headcount. It’s a recognition of lives, of beings, of souls. The language reminds us that those on […]
Have you ever noticed how a single question can completely shift your perspective? So often, we are looking for answers, solutions, fixes, and explanations to alleviate our discomfort. But what if the real transformation begins not with the answers we find, but with the questions we ask? Whether we’re trying to understand ourselves, navigate a […]
Our world is overflowing with the noise of media, other people’s opinions, and the demands and distractions in our lives. It’s easy to lose touch with our own inner compass. Yet, amid this external chaos lies an extraordinary opportunity: to cultivate inner clarity through a practice I call Consciousness Ecology. What Is Consciousness Ecology? […]
How often are you disappointed? Do your disappointments tend to be about life-altering things or just not getting what you want in daily life? Just because we want something doesn’t mean it will or should show up in our life. The problem with dissatisfaction is not what you didn’t get. It’s what you created in […]
One theme I have noticed with many of my mentoring clients is the feeling of being on the outside looking in. This might be how they feel in a particular social situation such as with their family, at work, or with a particular group of friends. For some, it is what they repeatedly experience. For […]
Like a soldier going into battle for the first time, being my mother’s caregiver for the final nine years of her life was a baptism by fire for me. My mother and I learned so much useful information through those years that she made me promise I would write a book about what we learned. […]
Do you often find yourself saying “It isn’t fair” or thinking you have more than your share of suffering? Do you play the story of “what happened to you” over and over in your mind like a hamster running in his wheel? Consider the possibility that there IS something you can do about that.The place […]
Does your relationship provide a safe emotional environment for you both? Are you free to be who you are? Or, do you edit yourself around your partner to avoid negative reactions? Do you walk on eggshells around each other? I used to officiate at a lot of weddings. And, because I also offer couple’s mentoring, […]