Relationships

Consciousness/Thriving
Making Peace with Death & Dying

Relationships Exist Inside of Us

One Relationship, Two Inner Worlds I remember being quite taken aback when I first heard the idea that our relationships exist inside of us, not out in the world. In time, I have come to understand the truth of this statement. We share experiences…

Honoring Your Differences: Making Room for Both of You

When Two Universes Share a Life Perhaps you once loved how spontaneous your partner was. Now you wish they would make a plan and stick to it. Perhaps you admired their quiet nature. Now you find yourself wishing they would tell you what they…
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Voting: What Are We Willing to Support?

We make myriad decisions by ourselves and for ourselves every day. “Do I hit the snooze button one more time?” “What will I wear today?” Sometimes our choices are far more consequential. Will I tell the truth when lying would be easier?…
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Three-Legged Race: What a Childhood Game Teaches Us About Love

Not Just a Childhood Game Most of us have run a three-legged race at least once in our lives. You stand hip to hip with a partner. Someone ties your adjacent legs together with a length of rope. A starting pistol fires, and suddenly you discover…
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Keeping The Doors Of Love Open In Your Relationship

Keeping the Doors of Love Open Does your relationship feel like a place where you can fully be yourself? Or do you find yourself editing who you are, choosing your words carefully, softening your reactions, bracing for what might come next?…
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How to Stop Turning Your Partner Into the Enemy

When Love Meets Difference Most of us have been trained to see life through a very narrow lens. We live in a culture whose values, social norms, institutions, and systems have largely been shaped by a level of human consciousness that is binary…
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Why Do We Keep Having the Same Fight?

Photo by Jakob Owens on Unsplash The argument isn't really about what you think it's about. If you've been in a long-term relationship, you know the feeling. A familiar tension rises, words are exchanged, and somewhere in the middle of it,…

Why Being the Responsible One Can Leave You Feeling Empty

You are the one who remembers.Who follows through.Who handles things when they fall apart. Others rely on you. Things work because you are there. And yet, at times, you feel inexplicably tired or flat. Not burned out exactly. Just quietly…

Different Is Not Wrong: The Missing Skill in Most Relationships

At the heart of every relationship is a simple and often challenging truth: the other person is not you. They do not think like you, perceive the world like you, or experience life through your nervous system. They are living inside an entirely…
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How to Handle Family Dynamics Around a Dying Loved One

Families can be complicated, to say the least. When they are beautifully loving and caring, it's one of God's most delightful gifts. But often, when the well-being of a critically-ill loved one is involved, tensions can flare. We don't all love…