The short answer is “Yes!” But the real problem is the question itself. When we worry about whether we are good enough we are buckling ourselves at the knees over a perceived flaw rather than standing tall in the fullness of our being. This act of questioning our sufficiency causes us to feel inferior without […]
Do you live at the cause or at the effect of your own life? Do you think what you experience is a response to other people and external events? Or do you see how you create, promote, and allow what happens to you? When we play the victim, we are placing ourselves at the effect […]
Are you living at the cause or the effect of what is happening in your life? Are you living from the outside in or the inside out? Is your life a series of reactions to external events and the beliefs and behaviors of others? Or, do you live connected deeply within yourself and respond to […]
In the theater of your mind is a multi-dimensional consciousness.Your perception of each new experience is processed through the filter of your responses to similar experiences in the past. Neuroscientists have discovered that repetitive thoughts form neural pathways as neurons that fire together get wired together. Thus, the more a particular thought or belief is […]
Are you keeping your past alive in the present? Or have you harvested its lessons and learned from it? We all have scars from our past. But what do we do with them now? That’s a really important question. In mentoring clients, I typically find that their current distress mirrors unresolved upsets from the past. […]
Advance Healthcare Planning Part 2: Why Filling Out Your Forms is Not Enough In Part One of this article, I discussed why every mentally-competent individual over the age of 18 needs to have advance healthcare plans in place. Here we will look at the in’s and out’s of how to make sure your plans will […]
Two of the biggest mistakes we make in figuring out what is going on in our lives are: to assume that our perceptions of reality match empirical reality. to assume that anyone who disagrees with us is simply wrong. One of the great ironies of life is that no two people see […]
Until we become aware of how our internal data processing determines the reality we perceive, we think we are reacting to an external reality rather than determining what that reality appears to be For most of us, our socialization includes indoctrination into a binary model of consciousness. In other words, we are taught to sort […]
What happens when you have a significant difference of opinion with someone you care deeply about? How do you evaluate what is going on? How do you treat each other? What kind of outcome can you expect? 20/20 hindsight gives us a much clearer understanding than what we see in the midst of a heated […]
Essentially, there are two contrasting frames of mind through which we perceive ourselves, our lives, environment, and each other. Leading edge thinkers in the field of human consciousness are encouraging us to do two things: Become familiar with how your ego functions. Notice that it orients your perceptions so that you are focusing outward comparing […]