One theme I have noticed with many of my mentoring clients is the feeling of being on the outside looking in. This might be how they feel in a particular social situation such as with their family, at work, or with a particular group of friends. For some, it is what they repeatedly experience. For […]
Like a soldier going into battle for the first time, being my mother’s caregiver for the final nine years of her life was a baptism by fire for me. My mother and I learned so much useful information through those years that she made me promise I would write a book about what we learned. […]
Do you often find yourself saying “It isn’t fair” or thinking you have more than your share of suffering? Do you play the story of “what happened to you” over and over in your mind like a hamster running in his wheel? Consider the possibility that there IS something you can do about that.The place […]
Does your relationship provide a safe emotional environment for you both? Are you free to be who you are? Or, do you edit yourself around your partner to avoid negative reactions? Do you walk on eggshells around each other? I used to officiate at a lot of weddings. And, because I also offer couple’s mentoring, […]
When was the last time you thought about your own death? 5 seconds ago? 5 years ago? What DO you think will happen when you die? How does that inform how you are living your life? Death is the most fascinating topic that we tend not to think or talk about very much. In the […]
Did you know that your brain gives preference to visual information? Researchers L.D. Rosenblum, Harold Stolovitch, and Erica Keeps refer to our senses as learning portals. They offer the following statistics regarding the percentage of data processed by each of our five senses: Sight (both through our eyes and unconscious visual perception) accounts for an […]
Families can be complicated, to say the least. When they are beautifully loving and caring, it’s one of God’s most delightful gifts. But often, when the well-being of a critically-ill loved one is involved, tensions can flare. We don’t all love in the same way. And, love is often tainted by self-serving motivations or competition […]
If any of the following sound familiar, you will be delighted to know you can eliminate them all! Feeling like an outsider Never feeling like you are good enough Being aware of an inner emotional heaviness or depression Experiencing a repetitive pattern of disappointment The emotional heat of perpetual anger The inability to deeply connect […]
My friend Roy was a great teacher for me. He was a retired farmer who had dropped out of school at an early age. But, he had more wisdom than most of the world’s great scholars. I remember when I used to complain to him about other people who did things I didn’t like. When […]
This is a picture of me with my mother, Grace Mundy, six months before her death in 2006. We shared a home during the final nine years of her life. Being her friend and caregiver through to her death was a walk through the valley of the shadow of death. But, it also taught me […]