We all ultimately want to be happy and to be loved. In my mentoring work I have noticed that each client has a fundamental unconscious drama playing out in their life. These dramas distract or blocking them from experiencing the love and inner peace they seek. In each case this drama compels them into life situations that reenact the inner distress of this dynamic.
Here are three examples:
- Monica never felt safe. An incest victim, she spent many decades anticipating being trapped in undesirable situations. She became masterful at problem solving to overcome any threat that presented itself. Some part of her was on high alert all the time standing guard and ready to pounce on any perceived threat. She was charming and often did so with grace and a smile on her face. But her agenda was relentless. Her life was devoted to protecting a part of her that didn’t feel safe.
- More than anything else, Jessica yearned to belong. Her drama began with her mother who had difficulty bonding with her. Jessica’s story is filled with friendships, job situations, and romantic connections that reinforced her sense of being an outsider looking in. She never felt that she was being fully seen, chosen, or desired. She saw life as unfair and was compelled to seek the approval of others in an attempt to soothe her distress.
- Jacob’s life revealed an obsession with not being like his father. He is a prolific creative yet has spent his life trying to outrun the fear of being like his father who he perceived as a failure who lived a wasted life. His fear served as the motivation that fueled his productivity. But, it was never dissipated by his achievements.
Working together, we discover the beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and behavioral patterns that have been holding these dramas in place. We trace their origins and discover ways to disempower and replace them with a different way of seeing and being in this world. True liberation comes through the process of gaining compassion for the part of themselves that was trapped in their drama and discovering who they really are without the drama.
Every wound knows its own healing.
We just need to get out of the way and let it heal itself.
In 20/20 hindsight, each client comes to notice how often their greatest wisdom or the strengthening of their most precious character traits came through encountering these darker aspects of life. They come to realize that these very disturbing aspects of their lives were not “wrong” as originally assumed. Rather, they have served as powerful teachers and us the greatest opportunities to evolve, learn life lessons, and gain wisdom and discernment.
What about you? Is there a drama that has been running your life? Have you harvested the life lessons it holds for you?
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